Category: Marriage/Relationship
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The Porcupine Dilemma: On Becoming Relational
Most likely, you have not met Arthur Schopenhauer, but for sure all of you know Sigmund Freud. Although we all know Freud as the father of psychology, in managing our relationships, I believe we would be better served in getting to know Arthur Schopenhauer. THE PSYCHOLOGY OF ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUERSchopenhauer was…
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Storytelling and Psychotherapy
Shhh…The Secret of Psychotherapy and Storytelling Judge, jury, executioner…aka couples therapist! Couples who come in to see me tell their stories with one question in mind, “am I right or am I wrong?” with the hope that I will “rule” in their favor and support them in their bid to…
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Relationship SMARTs
S.M.A.R.T! It’s an acronym for Small Measurable Achievable Relevant Time-Limited – SMART. Similar mnemonics are applied to all sorts of process flow studies, but how about applying it to a relationship?! It’s a suggestion found in Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt’s “Getting the Love You Want” book on Imago…
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A Couple O’ Differences In Gender
In the beginning there was man and a woman. In some circles they were known as Adam and Eve, and the world was never the same again. In fact eons later we are still struggling with the differences in gender. Nowadays research has proven what we have known all along,…
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A Simple Truth
A couple who came to my office because of a problem with their sex life. This was the issue I tackled and investigated for the first month, while trying to get to know them. After some more digging, I was able to determine that the wife had a problem with…